The other thing Ive noticed on this app is the amount of couples who dont use the paired profile feature and use one profile collectively. More often than not, I get a lot of likes from women who are looking for a third for their boyfriends, husbands, and partners for threesomes and group play. Although I dont really mind dating people who have partners or extensions, I myself do not identify as a unicorn and would much rather date folx singularly rather than collectively.
Conversely, I met one partner on Feeld that I dated for a few months. I also have met a lot of friends on the app that I have built a community with off the platform, and I really appreciate how this experience has been multifaceted. The only qualm that I have about the app is that it isnt as diverse as I would like for it to be. Similar to Bumble, Feeld is super white and is only limited to certain geographical areas. When I do encounter some Black and brown people, we often spend some time rejoicing on how happy and lucky we are to find other people who look like us on this app being that we are few and far between.
Verdict
Being that Feeld is one of the first “alternative” dating apps that Ive tried, I am going to give it some grace and rate it 3/5. Although the app does come with its challenges, I will say that most of the potential partners Ive met on Feeld were not only intriguing but also were individuals whom I felt were aligned with my politics and interests. I also felt that most of the people I encountered were friendly and pretty chill to talk to. In terms of fat-friendliness, I havent experienced any fat-shaming or the like on this platform.
I did, however, experience some fetishism based on my size, but I find that aspect to be comparable to other dating apps and as something that I now remedy by just removing the person and keeping it pushing
Some improvements, in my opinion, that would help the app flourish would be to update the server so that its not as glitchy and to find ways to make the app more diverse. When connecting with Black and brown partners on Feeld, there have been several instances where they have friendfinder-x expressed how “white” the app is and that they experienced a lot of fetishization because of it, followed by a collective sigh of relief for finding another person of color who also happens to be kink-friendly. To ameliorate the experience of Black and brown folx on this app, I think that the app would benefit from having more target search features (i.e. race, interests, kinks, etc.) for both free and paid members and also by having some sort of groups or sub-communities where people can find like-minded individuals to build community and find partners. Additionally, in the past, Feeld has done some collaborations with folx, primarily folx of color, where they would host panels on various topics, and have speed networking and dating events. I think that it would be nice to revamp this and use this as a strategy to bring in a more diverse user base as well. Lastly, I think they should do away with the “so-and-so has disconnected from you” feature. I think its a bit off-putting and unnecessary. Id rather it be like other apps where the person is removed from your inbox without notice.
